009 · Starting and stopping gets us nowhere efficiently
The cringey advice that makes you physically ill is probably true!
Continuing gets us anywhere eventually
I, like everyone else, am not benefitted by the constant cycling of efforts. It's *usually* the time for action, but something about the idea of planning gets me so much more excited than any potential place I could take myself. I'm attracted to the limitless possibility, and the fact that nothing goes wrong in planning, only the hypothetical of things going wrong.
"Anyone that's anybody was delusional"
Julia Fox said this, somewhere. It rings true, especially when you don't think of delusional as a dirty word. Delusional is what I feel when I dream up a life for myself outside of the "normal" life, the supposed to be's. Delusional is a motivator. Delusional gets you places.
You can't hate yourself into the person that you're going to love
Hate is another distraction. It's not that serious, it's never that serious. Love is transformative, and opening yourself up to a bit can open you up to a lot more. A lot of people make a lot of money on you hating yourself, and that's not cool.
You're a battery powering a machine that's torturing you for money
This is how I heard your brain's relationship to social media described recently in a YouTube video. When you put it that way...
You're the only one on your side
While not technically true, as (hopefully) everyone has some kind of external support system, it's a useful tool for putting things into perspective. You experience all of your thoughts, your feelings. You are with yourself all day long. You have your ideas, you execute them. No one else is going to sort through that for you, so you might as well be nice to yourself. Instead of waiting for someone to be on your side, be on your own side.
When it clicks
Often a truth will come when you least expect it, it will be something you’ve known to be true before. Until you feel it, it’s like an empty mantra, a saying you’ve memorized that means nothing to you. Then it hits, it feels as obvious as the moon in the sky. Fight the urge to feel stupid, like you should have gotten to this place earlier. You could’ve only gotten here now.
It’s not about how you show up in X, it’s about how you show up
Above all else, remain consistent in what you do. How you do anything is how you do everything. All of the generic advice about life being a marathon and not a race is unfortunately true! More accurately, life is running. There are no paths and destinations, everything is practice.
This week’s newsletter was written during a rainy week under a new moon. I’m going to write like this more often, let me know if you’ve enjoyed it. If you’ve really enjoyed it, please consider subscribing or sharing it with a friend.